Friday, October 18, 2013

Virginity and the Double Standard

As I'm working on my memoir, I'm spending some time discussing virginity, as it is a very relevant issue to my journey. And it occurs to me that our delightful double standard around sex is probably pretty punitive to men when it comes to virginity. After all, a woman who is a virgin probably has "reasons," but a virgin man is just a loser, right? I think about the movie the 40 Year Old Virgin (which I found hilarious). Would that movie had worked if the virgin had been Catherine Keener rather than Steve Carrell? Would it even have gotten made?
I'd love some feedback. What do you think society labels a virgin man? Do women virgins have more social acceptance? Why and how?

Thursday, October 17, 2013


So, Halloween is approaching, along with Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's. Also in the works are my webinar all about creating holiday calm, a costume party for my husband and I, two trips with my 2 year old, and oh, yes, continued recovery from my emergency appendectomy last weekend.
So what's on my mind? NANOWRIMO, of course! I'm totally participating this year. Am I crazy? Oh, yes, totally. The only question on my mind is which book to write. I've been plugging away steadily on my memoir, and I hope to have a rough draft ready for beta readers by New Year's Eve. On the other hand, a light office comedy has been percolating in my head for months now. Should I use Nanowrimo to write a totally new fun book? Or to finish my memoir rough draft?